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Why is self-knowledge important?
12 tools to know yourself better
Philosophers and psychologists from all over the world have studied humanity’s self-consciousness. But, for many of us, the concept of “self” remains elusive.
Thankfully, you don’t have to be Descartes or Socrates to dig a little deeper. With just a little time and effort, you can learn more about yourself.
And the process of self-discovery is worth it. It makes us better leaders, family members, and friends. When we know what makes us tick, we can improve our mental health and lead authentic lives.
From adolescence to adulthood, you've been on your own journey toward self-discovery. So here are some self-knowledge examples and theories to help you know yourself.
You probably know your favorite color or ice cream flavor already. But self-knowledge is more complicated than that.
At its core, it’s really about examining your thought processes, beliefs, values, and behaviors.
The first step to self-knowledge is self-awareness. Having greater self-awareness will make you more honest, more confident, and more creative.
That allows you to start living more authentically. You can look for a career more in line with your values, set boundaries in your significant relationships, and become a more confident person. Studies show cultivating self-awareness can help you become a better employee and more satisfied with your job.
Of course, as with all things philosophical, this quickly grows complicated. Throughout history, thinkers have proposed theories about how to get in tune with your internal mental state.
These are different but equal ways to try to understand the sources of self-knowledge. Reflect on these, and you’ll be better equipped to examine yourself.
1. The perceptual model. Philosophers John Locke and Immanuel Kant imagined self-reflection as a sensory experience. Just as you would direct your attention to a tingle on our skin, you can do the same for your sense of self.
This model theorizes that you can “see” the things that make yourself tick — and thus try to understand them — by turning your attention inward.
2. The inferential model. This approach is based on the idea that the “self” isn’t something we can see. Rather, it’s something you can discover through inference, logic, and analysis.
It assumes that all humans are reasonable (albeit imperfectly). That means you can understand and change yourself based on reasoning alone.
When you discover a feeling or emotion, you can use an inferential model to ask, “Does it make sense for me to feel this way?” The goal isn’t to invalidate your feelings but to identify the cause. This can reduce feelings of power over you.
3. Trivial vs. substantial self-knowledge. Some thinkers make a distinction between types of self-knowledge. On one level, you have trivial self-knowledge. An example of this would be, “I am aware that I am wearing a shirt.”
On another level, you have substantial self-knowledge. This refers to your deeper feelings, emotions, and values. For example, “I value loyalty in other people.”
Both involve a type of self-awareness, but operate at different levels of consciousness.
4. Understanding emotions. Emotions can oscillate between the trivial vs. substantial categories. For example, at the trivial level, understanding your feelings is relatively simple — you don’t have to think long to know, “I am sad.”
But some other feelings and emotions are trickier. They exist at a deeper level and aren’t as readily available to your higher awareness. You might be subconsciously resentful of a person or thing.
5. Understanding “why?” There’s a distinction between identifying your own thoughts, beliefs, and values and understanding why they exist. Investigating the “why” can reveal deep truths about yourself.
6. Self-ignorance and self-deception. This theory refers to your capacity to ignore your feelings and emotions. But not paying attention to them doesn’t mean they don’t exist. That’s why you need to consciously reflect on your inner workings.
Self-awareness is a fundamental part of being human. When you leverage your inner thoughts and consciousness, you manifest a skill that comes from 200 million years of evolution.
If you don’t activate this part of yourself, you’re leaving a fundamental human trait on the table. And your mental health will suffer. Chronically low self-esteem can harm your mental health and cause hostility, social withdrawal, depression, anxiety, or disorder eating habits. Being unable to recognize your strengths will lower your quality of life.
When this happens, you give yourself up to external forces influencing your behavior rather than making choices on your own. You allow emotions to get the best of you. And you may fall into patterns of behavior holding you back from happiness.
Self-awareness and self-knowledge help uncover the emotions acting on you every day. Then, once you’re aware of them, you can take back control. You can make changes that are more in line with your authentic self.
Here are some of the many benefits that come with self-understanding:
Here are some examples of self-knowledge. These are some of the outcomes you can expect from your inner explorations.
Some people possess a level of self-awareness worth admiring. Here’s a real-world example to inspire you on your journey.
In 2021, race car driver Lewis Hamilton showed exemplary sportsmanship and self-knowledge during a contentious championship. He was on track to win the final race of the season, which would clinch him the world title.
But a controversial decision by the race managers put him at a substantial disadvantage. In the final corners of the final lap, his rival overtook him. Lewis lost the championship.
He could have been angry and contested the results. Instead, he congratulated his rival and quietly left after the closing ceremonies. He then took time away from the media for self-care to heal from an emotional loss.
As a professional athlete, he’s undoubtedly aware of his competitive nature — a trait that could have led to brash decisions. But, because he understood this part of himself, he controlled it. This is a beautiful display of self-knowledge.
There are many tools you can use to know yourself better. Here are some to keep in mind as you embark on a journey of self-knowledge:
These two terms are often thrown around interchangeably. While self-knowledge and self-awareness are related, they’re distinct concepts. Here are some of the differences you should know:
Self-awareness is about tracking your emotional states, behaviors, and patterns. Self-knowledge is the outcome of this process.
Through self-awareness, we understand our own behaviors, emotions, beliefs, and values. We use them to build a self-concept — the story we tell ourselves about who we are.
We may discover limiting beliefs, behaviors, and patterns that hold you from achieving your potential. Self-knowledge will let you address these traits and make healthy changes.
Understanding the self-awareness and self-knowledge examples we’ve highlighted will set you on a path of personal growth and self-improvement. They’ll empower you to make positive changes in your life, bringing you closer to your authentic self.
Self-discovery requires patience and self-discipline. If you need help staying accountable, try working with one of BetterUp’s professional coaches. Together you can mobilize these self-help examples, set milestones, and live a better life.
Kickstart your path to self-discovery and self-awareness. Our coaches can guide you to better understand yourself and your potential.
Kickstart your path to self-discovery and self-awareness. Our coaches can guide you to better understand yourself and your potential.
Elizabeth Perry is a Coach Community Manager at BetterUp. She uses strategic engagement strategies to cultivate a learning community across a global network of Coaches through in-person and virtual experiences, technology-enabled platforms, and strategic coaching industry partnerships.
With over 3 years of coaching experience and a certification in transformative leadership and life coaching from Sofia University, Elizabeth leverages transpersonal psychology expertise to help coaches and clients gain awareness of their behavioral and thought patterns, discover their purpose and passions, and elevate their potential. She is a lifelong student of psychology, personal growth, and human potential as well as an ICF-certified ACC transpersonal life and leadership Coach.
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