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33 Self-Esteem Journal Prompts for Confidence & Self-Compassion

March 26, 2024 - 18 min read

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5 Benefits of Journaling

What Is Self-Esteem?

What Is a Self-Esteem Journal?

Journal Prompts for Self-Esteem

Embracing Your Journey While Journaling

We all have moments of self-doubt where our inner critics get a bit loud. However, we should never let that hold us back or affect our self-esteem. 

One way to work on negative self-talk is through journaling. It’s a powerful tool for self-discovery and growth, helping you cultivate a sense of confidence and enhanced self-esteem. In this guide, you’ll find a collection of prompts to help you get started.

5 Benefits of Journaling

Journaling offers a variety of benefits for physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In the following list, we’ll walk you through some key advantages, along with studies that support these claims:

1. Reduces Stress and Anxiety

Writing down your thoughts and feelings through journaling allows you to externalize them. This removes some of the burden they have on your mind and makes them seem less overwhelming than they initially were.

Doing this regularly helps you process negative thoughts and pent-up emotions along with the general stress and anxiety associated with them.

These findings were confirmed by various studies, including a 2021 research on the relationship between gratitude journaling and stress management.

2. Promotes Emotional Well-being and Self-confidence

In addition to reducing stress, journaling can also improve our emotional well-being in several additional ways, according to studies.

For instance, the practice of putting our thoughts and emotions into words allows us to gain a clearer understanding of what’s going on inside our minds instead of relying solely on internal monologues.

This process can help us identify recurring patterns in our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, allowing us to recognize triggers and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Journaling can be used to develop a habit of positive self-talk by encouraging us to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which helps us gain confidence and avoid self-criticism.

3. Helps Us Discover Ourselves and Improve Self-Esteem

Journaling offers a platform for self-reflection and looking back at what we do and feel from a different perspective.

It can also help us look at how far we’ve grown and improved over time, which can give us a self-esteem boost.

4. Enhances Memory and Cognitive Functions

Besides enhancing our emotional health and mental fitness, journaling can also enhance our physical and cognitive health.

For example, one study shows that expressive writing can directly improve memory capacity and the ability to learn. 

Another study also shows that journaling can be an effective study method because it boosts metacognition.

5. Indirectly Encourages Planning and Productivity 

The best thing about journaling is it’s contagious. Once you start using this method for one purpose and experience its effects, you’ll use it in a variety of aspects of your life.

For instance, if you find large, long-term goals a bit intimidating, journaling and turning these goals into smaller positive journal prompts or a to-do list will make it much more manageable and achievable.

Having your thoughts and tasks organized is also a great way to break free from extra burdens like decision fatigue.

What Is Self-Esteem?

Understanding what self-esteem is and how it impacts your mental health is essential to compose self compassion journal prompts. Although self-esteem is a multifaceted concept, it can simply be described as your overall opinion of yourself or how much you value and appreciate yourself.

Self-esteem also describes how you view your abilities and limitations because it’s shaped by experiences, thoughts, and relationships. If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, you’ll have a hard time feeling good about yourself and your abilities, which can hinder your personal development and growth. 

That’s why it’s important to find methods and techniques to boost your self-esteem, including self-esteem journaling.

What Is a Self-Esteem Journal?

A self-esteem journal is a personal notebook used to record thoughts, feelings, and experiences that contribute to your sense of self-worth. 

It's a space for self-reflection and appreciation, aiming to encourage you to accept yourself in a more positive light. 

As previously established, many studies reveal the effectiveness of journaling as a technique to boost your self-image and gain confidence. 

In this journal, you can write a variety of aspects, including:

  • Self-esteem questions to help you explore your positive qualities
  • Self-esteem prompts to encourage you to note down your achievements and acknowledge your capabilities
  • Positive experiences, quotes, and self-compassion affirmations that you find inspiring and bring you a feeling of mental and emotional well-being.

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Journal Prompts for Self-Esteem

A good way to establish a self-esteem journal is to have some prompts to help you get started. Here’s a quick look at 33 prompts for self-esteem and how they can help you:

  1. “What is your favorite thing about yourself?” This one promotes self-exploration and encourages you to identify and recognize the positive qualities you already have.
  2. “Write 5 activities or hobbies that bring you joy in life, then set out a plan to incorporate more of them into your life.” Identifying aspects that please you and making a conscious effort to schedule them into your routine can nourish your soul and boost self-compassion.
  3. “Create a motivational message for yourself.” This one helps you improve your self-expression by creating your own self-pep talk and also encourages you to recognize the obstacles in your path and how to overcome them.
  4. “Imagine your ideal self. What personal qualities would you possess?” This prompt helps visualize the best version of yourself and the traits you want to cultivate to make it a reality.
  5. “What is one negative self-belief you hold? How can you challenge it?” Besides working on your positive aspects, you also need to identify self-doubt and develop strategies to counter it.
  6. “Think of a time someone believed in you when you doubted yourself. How did their belief impact you?” This prompt encourages you to recognize the positive influence of others and reminds you others see the good in you.
  7. “What is one thing you're looking forward to next week? Why are you excited about it?” Anticipation of positive experiences can boost your overall mood and help you feel better about yourself.
  8. “List three things you're good at that aren't necessarily related to your job or studies.” This prompt helps you appreciate how unique you are by recognizing the diversity of talents and skills you have. The list of items could be as simple as a meal you’re good at cooking, so don’t pressure yourself.
  9. “What small act of kindness did you do today/this week? And how did it make you feel?” This one encourages you to reflect on your own compassion and build a gratitude practice for the little things you do in your life.
  10. “Describe a part of yourself that you used to be critical of. What do you appreciate about that part of yourself now, even if it's still a work in progress?” Recognizing the shift from self-criticism to gratitude and self-acceptance shows signs of maturity and how far you’ve progressed in your journey.
  11. “What type of compliment do you often get although you have a hard time accepting it?” This one encourages you to reassess the positive qualities that others see in you and how they can make you feel better about yourself.
  12. “Imagine you have a "done" list instead of a "to-do" list. What would you include?” This prompt encourages you to recognize and celebrate the achievements and accomplishments you’ve already made, which are often overlooked or forgotten. Remember, any achievements go here.
  13. “Think of a time someone complimented you. What was it, and how did it make you feel?” This one helps you reflect on positive feedback which can empower you and can help you internalize your strengths.
  14. “Describe a situation, no matter how simple it was, where you felt proud of yourself. What made you feel that way?” This prompt encourages you to savor past success and reconnect with moments of emotional strength/self-worth to help you understand what triggers these positive emotions.
  15. “Perform one self-care action, whether physical or emotional, within the next 30 minutes.” Self-care practices are directly related to your self-esteem. The more you take care of yourself, the higher you subconsciously regard your self-worth.
  16. “What is something new that you’ve learned this week?” This question helps you explore the different experiences and knowledge you’ve gathered over the week, which is a great way to remind you that you’re constantly evolving and improving.
  17. “Lately, what has made you feel insecure? How can you challenge those thoughts?” It’s okay to recognize and acknowledge your source of insecurity. This actually makes them well-defined and less overwhelming than they seem to be when you don’t actively recognize them. Thinking about methods and solutions to overcome them makes them even easier to conquer.
  18. “Recall a time you overcame a challenge. What did you learn from the experience?” This prompt helps you build confidence by remembering your resilience and reflecting on past challenges you've overcome, which also reminds you of your inner strength and ability to persevere.
  19. “Write a letter to your younger self. What advice or encouragement would you offer?” This one will give you a shift of perspective to a time when you may have had difficulties in life. The letter will give you the compassion you might’ve needed during that time and also help you reflect on how far you’ve come since that time.
  20. “What are three things you accomplished this week, big or small?” This one encourages you to recognize your efforts and celebrate your achievements.
  21. "If you could offer yourself advice on accepting imperfections what would you say?" By acknowledging that everyone has "less-than-perfect" parts, you subconsciously challenge the unrealistic and pressure-filled belief in perfection. This shift in perspective reduces self-criticism and frees up mental space for self-acceptance.
  22. “Name 1-3 things you want to accomplish by the end of the year.” Having clearly defined goals provides direction and motivation for your daily actions. This also helps you prioritize your tasks and make decisions that align with your goals and encourage you to stay focused. Remember to keep the goals achievable and realistic.
  23. “What is a past mistake you’re still thinking about lately? What are actionable steps you can take to forgive yourself for it?” Holding onto guilt can hinder personal growth and development significantly. Trying to forgive yourself for past mistakes and acknowledging the lesson learned can eventually help move forward and feel better about yourself.
  24. “Think of someone you admire. What qualities do you respect in them?” This one encourages critical thinking and also helps you identify qualities you might share with that person, which can give you an instant boost of self-esteem.
  25. “If your self-talk is harsh, consider the impact it has on your feelings. Imagine a different voice, one that is kind and understanding. What words would it use?” This prompt helps you become aware of the self-destructing impact of harshness while criticizing yourself. Also, imagining a more understanding tone helps you explore alternative, more compassionate ways of speaking to yourself.
  26. “What does strength represent to you? Describe the last time you felt strong.” This two-part prompt allows you to explore how societal and personal circumstances affect your definition of strength and also encourages you to recollect positive memories associated with this feeling.
  27. "When you feel strong and capable, what qualities or beliefs are driving that feeling?" Understanding the source of your inner strength is a great way to have better control over when to show it, which is essential to maintain self-confidence.
  28. “If limitations and doubts weren't holding you back, what goals, big or small, would you actively pursue?” By removing self-imposed limitations and doubts, you explore possibilities beyond your perceived boundaries. This exercise helps you discover your true desires and helps you find ways to overcome obstacles to achieve them.
  29. "Reflect on 3-5 times you used your talents to achieve something and how it made you feel." Recalling successful experiences where you managed to your strengths reinforces your belief in your abilities, which boosts your self-confidence and self-esteem.
  30. “If you’re an expert in a field, activity, or subject, describe what it is and how you obtained this expertise.” This prompt encourages you to explore points of strength in your characters and also reminds you of the effort and time it took to reach this status. 
  31. “Write a list of your top 10 traits.” This simple prompt encourages you to explore your qualities and enhance your self-image.
  32. "What step did you take recently, no matter how insignificant it may seem, that shows your dedication to your goals?" This prompt helps you recognize your efforts and evoke a sense of satisfaction with your performance.
  33. “What are three things you appreciate most about yourself, and why?” This prompt encourages you to actively reflect on your positive qualities and the reasons behind them which boosts self-appreciation.

Embracing Your Journey While Journaling

Remember, journaling is a process. So don’t stress yourself if you don’t have all the answers to these prompts right away. 

Stay kind to yourself throughout the process. The more you practice self-compassion, the stronger and more confident you'll become.

Published March 26, 2024

Elizabeth Perry, ACC

Elizabeth Perry is a Coach Community Manager at BetterUp. She uses strategic engagement strategies to cultivate a learning community across a global network of Coaches through in-person and virtual experiences, technology-enabled platforms, and strategic coaching industry partnerships.

With over 3 years of coaching experience and a certification in transformative leadership and life coaching from Sofia University, Elizabeth leverages transpersonal psychology expertise to help coaches and clients gain awareness of their behavioral and thought patterns, discover their purpose and passions, and elevate their potential. She is a lifelong student of psychology, personal growth, and human potential as well as an ICF-certified ACC transpersonal life and leadership Coach.

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